10 Handy Positive Ways for Preventing Situations Slipping from Your Hand
It is quite
common for you to get frustrated when things go out of your hand and you
may also develop a sinking feeling on your inability to control the situation.
Some times you may also start wondering whether you lack in positive thinking
or suffering from ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), a common disorder
seen with depressed people. Further, such negative presumptions might
further lead to a situation where you may feel drained out of energy to
face any new challenges and move forward.
When it comes
to the power of positive thinking, it can even help people with ADD to
gain focus and concentrate on things for betterment and for accomplishing
difficult tasks. Once you are on the path of practicing positive thinking,
you will be actually spending less time brooding on your failures and
that in turn will boost your energy level for better accomplishments.
We will now see few of the practical positive thinking patterns:
1. Have
Concern about Your Own Good Stead
Always try
to have a positive attitude and soon you will find it to be a very great
mood enhancer and that in turn will assist you in getting things accomplished
the way your want them. Eat well, take good rest and take enough care
to maintain your health without which you may not be able to realize your
life’s goal in its fullest potential.
2. Recollect
Wonderful Moments in Your Life
Certain amount
of stress is in fact good for achieving results, as the same will help
you to have focus and concentration. In order to stay clear from the present
stress, you can recollect all your earlier accomplishments that you achieved
despite the stress and you can consider the present situation as a yet
another chance to prove yourself. Take time to recollect, appreciate and
enjoy your earlier achievements and finer moments of life and this can
certainly alter your present scenario much to your liking.
3. Stop
making Proof-less Assumptions
Never develop
a false thought that others may not like you and in such a situation you
are more likely to concentrate on worthless matters to attract or win
others’ acceptance or appreciation. In fact, majority of the time
all the people are normally engrossed in their own thoughts rather than
to watch and think about others. And to know this attitude precisely,
you yourself can watch your thought process and you can see that most
of the time you would be bothering to impress others in the place of finding
their faults or watching them for their actions.
However,
if you have valid reasons or proof that your co-workers are secretly gossiping
about you when you turn your back, it is better you confront them politely
and ask them to speak to you directly or you can even opt to ignore them
provided you did nothing wrong to them.
4. Absolutes
and Abstracts are of no use
Stop using
abstract annotations such as “always” or “never” under
circumstances like “you are always late” or “ you never
bother to inform me”. Using of such absolutes may only aggravate
the situation to worse and in fact not using them might turn the situation
more amenable to you. Further, usage of such absolutes will slowly make
you to misjudge people who were otherwise very competent and trustworthy
and in a long run you stand a chance to lose them.
5. Kill
those Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts
are capable of doing or undoing things in your favor and hence immediately
on the onset of any negative thoughts try to dissuade from it and try
to kill all those thoughts. During the initial stages you may find it
difficult to avoid such thoughts, but once you practice to watch your
thoughts and do not follow the negative ones, you will slowly be able
to dissuade them totally.
6. Refrain
from "ANTs"
Many scientific
studies have proved that bad thoughts categorized as "ANTs"
(Automatic Negative Thoughts) are capable of resulting in reactions detrimental
to you. Hence whenever thoughts such as "Those people are laughing
at me” or “they must be talking about me" or "The
boss will scold me today”, try to refrain from developing such thoughts
for your own benefits.
7. Explore
the Wonders of Physical Contacts
At the first
instance understand that more than your words, your non-verbal actions
and reactions can do wonders with others. For instance, if you simply
hug your friend to convey your greetings on his/her recent accomplishment,
the act can linger long in their minds and you are sure to get unanticipated
good reciprocation from them. Even in one of the research studies, it
was found that when the waitress touched some of her customers just over
the arm while handing over the bill has helped her to get more tips from
those customers.
8. Never
Cease Your Social Activity
Humans are
largely considered as social animals and hence you cannot afford to stop
from socializing for any reason. Further, through social activity you
can kill all your loneliness and see yourself with other happy and healthy
people that in turn can bestow you with a high level of positive energy.
9. Extend
Help to Needy Persons or Volunteer for an Organization
It is true
that once you lend a helping hand to others, whatever small the help may
be, more than the receiver it is you who will feel happier. By extending
your help through various resources such as time, energy, money, etc.,
you are actually extending positive energy and they are sure to return
multifold back to you in future.
10. Desist
from Ruminating Bad things
Have had
any bad experiences in the past? At the first instance stop ruminating
over them, as any amount of your rumination cannot alter those situations
and in the process you lose only your precious present moments. If you
get interrupted frequently by such ruminating thoughts, then you can resolve
to stop or desist from such acts and you can also get distracted from
it by engaging yourself in a completely different activity.
If you just
watch your rumination process, you will notice that you always ruminate
only bad happenings in your life and such negative aspects will have a
direct adverse bearing on your future. Hence, try to change from such
a scenario and you can devise various methods that can assist you to come
out of such bad rumination. Try walking a mile or call up a friend or
turn on your i–pod or move from the place where you stand or sit
– such small acts can really help you to come out of the ruminating
box instantly.
In any corporate
world, the unwritten religion is the protocol and in order to survive
you must get to know the basics first. When it comes to stress in corporate
world, in fact a little stress is needed to achieve a set goal and without
any such stress you are more likely to become complacent and project a
bad example. Succumbing to stress will not yield results, but at the same
time you can make use of the same stress to bring the talent in you to
get appreciated and become successful.
